#firstworldproblems

I am self-conscious about my nose. It is big and wide. I like to avoid photos of profile at all costs.

I am self-conscious about my hair. It is too flat, too thin, too dry, to blah.

I am self-conscious about how I am perceived by others. I am not suave, I am too impulsive, and I am THE WORST in small talk.

Obviously, I let a lot of things make me feel bad about myself. And some days I find that I am I actively playing into this by the things I read and look at while perusing depths of the interwebs.

I often let Pinterest make me feel boring. I am not making awesomely creative DIY games for my niece and nephew, I am not remodeling my spare bathroom, and I am certainly not wearing the perfect voluminous top knot compliment my new sequin and chambray top and suede booties.

Sometimes I feel inadequate by what I see on Facebook. I didn’t go to hot yoga before work, I don’t have one hundred best girl friends, and am not training for a marathon/having a baby/ serving in third world countries. But I like to look at all the people who are.

Oh, Instagram. Life seems a bit more perfect on Instagram. I can’t help but wish for a heavy duty filter for all of my photos.

With that being said, I am going to be 28 in LESS THAN A month, which means 2 years ’til 30. Which means, I gotta get it together! I owe it to 14 year old Whitney to finally embrace my nose, my body, and my less than cool social interactions.

So! Rather than pinning Ikea Hacks I will never build or taking 10 selfies that no filters can save, I am committing to spend my digital journeys in better ways.

:: Here’s where this rant makes sense to the blog…::

TOP FIVE WEBSITES TO ENCOURAGE POSITIVE SELF-TALK AND HEALTHY PERSPECTIVE

1. 1000 Awesome Things is a blog daily countdown of, well, 1000 awesome things.

A few examples of awesome things:

  • #693 Waking up really thirsty in the morning and finding a glass of water that you can reach from your bed
  • #715 Looking at how much dirt came off something you just cleaned
  • #729 Passing under a bridge on the highway when it’s pouring rain

2.  Donald Miller’s Storyline Blog is an extension of his books. I like the way he thinks and processes. Bonus: the contributing authors are just as good and the posts are short. I always love a good thought provoking nugget of wisdom.

A couple golden takeaways I have read:

  • Imagine how much unnecessary negativity floats around in our brains because we’ve made up a story in our mind, convinced the narrative is true?”
  • “In an age in which we can project an image and score that image based on immediate Facebook and Twitter feedback, thus making a video game of life and a false-reality composed of lies, what gets lost is a joyful obsession with the work we create from the purest of motives, a sheer joy in the act of creation itself that causes us to lose ourselves in something else, and in a way die to ourselves over the absolute love of a thing we are breathing into life.”

3. TUT (Totally Unique Thoughts) can feel a little like a rainbow encrusted unicorn, but it really drives the message that your “thoughts become things, and that imagination is the gift that can bring love, health, abundance, and happiness into our lives.” I signed up for TUT’s daily notes and (when I read them) they always make me stand a little taller. Bonus: the notes are tailored with your name so you feel mega special.

Example notes:

  • You simply cannot know, Whitney, what will make others happy. But you can always know for yourself.
  • There’s nothing worth regret, Whitney. Absolutely nothing, ever. Same for fear, worry, or anger. Let ’em go, rise above, get down, move on… 

 

4.  This American Life, Porchlight Storytelling, and The Moth seem to be brilliant vehicles to get out of your own head and find balance while listening to others’ stories. While I am not including specific examples, these narratives tend to teach me things about myself. I have always felt more gratitude and more appreciation after listening. 

5.  I don’t quite know if Letters of Note really applies to this list, but it’s worthy of brain space. This website is basically an archive of fascinating correspondence, even if all you read is the following…

Example:

In a letter between Mel Stuart, the director of Willy Wonka, and Gene Wilder, the actor who played Willy Wonka, Wilder accepted the role with one request, “When I make my first entrance, I’d like to come out of the door carrying a cane and then walk toward the crowd with a limp. After the crowd sees Willy Wonka is a cripple, they all whisper to themselves and then become deathly quiet. As I walk toward them, my cane sinks into one of the cobblestones I’m walking on and stands straight up, by itself; but I keep on walking, until I realize that I no longer have my cane. I start to fall forward, and just before I hit the ground, I do a beautiful forward somersault and bounce back up, to great applause.” … When asked why, Wilder said, “Because from that time on, no one will know if I’m lying or telling the truth.”

Happy worldwideweb trails to you.